When you discover a loved one is struggling with alcohol or drug addiction, the first thing you want to do is get them some help. Seems rational, right? Most often, however, it isn’t that easy. Denial is a big part of addiction. “I don’t have a problem,” may be the reply to every attempt at a conversation, and even after the problem is acknowledged, the person struggling may believe they can quit on their own, any time they want to.
The truth is, addiction is just as much of a lesson in powerlessness for loved ones as it is for the person in active addiction. We quickly discover that it’s not really up to us when our loved one goes to rehab. Getting help is a personal crossroad and everyone gets there “when they do.”