The Holidays and Your Sobriety: What to Keep in Mind

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If you are not feeling the joy and cheer you think everyone else has all around you this Holiday season, DO NOT FEEL ALONE! The holidays are ruthless for causing people of any type, clean and sober, rich and poor, functioning and not, to become depressed. As well, for our circle of recovery we all know how notorious the holidays season is for causing recovering addicts and alcoholics to relapse.

During this holiday season, there are some things to consider with regards to how all this joyous frolicking may affect you and your recovery, so read on!

OUR FEELINGS RIGHT NOW ARE GIGANTIC

This is no small matter. The holidays bring up feelings from the past that are good, bad, sad, and the holidays really make the past a central focus. Think about it. All we do during this time is ‘compare’. We compare where we were last year to now, who we spent last Christmas with before, to who we are with now. It’s endless, even on Christmas Day itself we will be comparing our gifts and probably wishing we got something better.

What is important to realize is that the Holidays draw out feelings regardless of who you are or not. It is meant to be a time of love and joy and sharing. These are great big emotional situations. Take care of yourself right now, and allow yourself to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE if you are affected negatively during the holidays.

Re-consider the Christmas-Family-Visit

This is mega of all whammies for people in recovery and especially for people in early recovery. Seeing the family at Christmas is very very emotional. Do not feel obligated to make appearances for the family’s sake. If you are not ready to take on the family and Christmas all at once, spend Christmas with your sober family!

For many successful recovering addicts and alcoholics, it took one, two, three years and more before they could join the family for Christmas. Because of all its old baggage, old habits and disappoints, together combined with the overfilled emotional celebrations of the holidays, for them, was just too much before they knew they could go and stay clean and sober- AND FEEL HAPPY!!

USE RECOVERY TOOLS RIGHT NOW, LOTS OF TOOLS

If you don’t understand what a recovery tool is then we will make it easy for you and name the best ones. First, make sure your sponsor, or sober circle of friends, are available to see you and to talk to you EVERY DAY of the Holiday season. Second, GET REAL AND DO NOT GO TO X-MAS PARTIES WHERE ALCOHOL IS SERVED! This is a no brainer, it will suck and you will be tempted as well as miserable. Third, make more than one Christmas and New Year’s plan. You may change your mind about wanting to go one hour before. In this case, what is important is to have a backup plan, so you don’t feel left out or alone.

For example, where and when are some good meetings or church services to go to? Fourth, DO NOT GO TO PARTIES WHERE ALCOHOL IS SERVED. Fifth, it is okay to stay at your sober home, or in, and not celebrate the Holidays. In fact, a lot of regular people in America think of Christmas or New Years as just a long weekend off from work and do nothing but rest! RIGHT ON!! So watch that awesome movie, go take a long bath or stroll by the ocean. Be YOU and be comfortable!

LAST WORDS BEFORE CHRISTMAS

Love yourself, love your recovery, and most importantly Do Not Feel Alone because REALLY, we are ALL feeling the emotional ups and downs in a big way during the Holiday season.

PEACE BE WITH YOU, GOD LOVES YOU THE MOST AND STAY STRONG!

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Interview with a Recovering Alcoholic

 

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The phrase “To Hit Bottom” has become a regularly understood statement in many circles of addiction recovery. For recovering addicts and alcoholics this means when they realized they had nothing left or had destroyed it all because of their addictions, and that they were ready to ask for help. What’s different about this recovering alcoholic, known in this interview as Ben, was that he realized that his drinking meant there was no bottom to hit, because he had nothing left to loose.

Interviewer: So when you say you did not ever hit a bottom in your disease, how did you know when you needed help?

Ben: Actually I knew all along I needed help. I just couldn’t stay sober long enough to get it.

Interviewer: So does that mean you tried? And if so, what happened why wasn’t it helping you?

Ben: What happened was, I had become homeless, and in my desperation to fight all the horrors of what had become of my existence in life- I wasn’t able to accept help. Social workers would come to the hospital after they had found me near dead for the third time and beg for me to go to treatment, but I could not hear them.

Interviewer: What do you mean you couldn’t hear them?

Ben: I couldn’t hear that another person was scared for my life. I had been through a year and a half of being homeless and rejected by all of our society, including my family. I had lost the ability to sense danger and hear the fear, or even love in someone’s voice. All I knew how to do anymore was to fight. And for me, fighting meant staying numb – meaning drunk.

Interviewer: So what happened, how did you finally achieve the three years of sobriety you have today?

Ben: It wasn’t until I started to regain my consciousness of who I used to be. What I mean by that is, I made contact with my Dad and he started to send me enough money to where I could get a hotel, shower and afford clean clothes. It was at that point that I became less afraid of the world and I started to care about myself. I started to feel some sort self- dignity again.

Interviewer: So once you regained your self-dignity and started to care about yourself again, is that when you felt like you needed help? Or were you just ready to get help?

Ben: Both. I had been arrested over 50 times for public intoxication within one year; I had been hospitalized for three life-threatening disorders because of my drinking. I had been attacked by other vagrants, and nearly beaten to death. But somehow I realized that I could not fight any longer.

Interviewer: So was that your bottom, when you realized you could not fight any longer?

Ben: No. I realized that for me there is no bottom when I am drinking. I can lose everything, nearly die, and go to jail, but nothing will be a bottom. I will keep going (drinking).

Interviewer: So if there are others who feel the same as you, what would you like to tell them?

Ben: That if you have realized that things in your life, or how your life is going can only continue to get worse, and really feel this from all directions- in your life- and who you are-  you are then ready to realize that you may never hit bottom and that for you there isn’t one. Hitting bottom is when people are done. They do not want to go on being drunk, high, whatever. When you have no bottom, you realize that things will always get worse- it will be neverending.

Fortunately, Ben is, as stated earlier, in his third year of sobriety. After the interview, he stated he never thought he could get sober, and that over time sobriety gets easier. He also stated that alcoholism is a never-ending story of loss. All the horrors that we can imagine, do come true when you are in your disease. And all dreams come true when you are in recovery- Well said, Ben!

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3 Things To Remember That Really Matter In Recovery

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Watch What You Eat and Don’t Eat

Unfortunately, a lot of us in recovery have ignored all the advice about the importance of good nutrition and eating right. It’s like one of those topics that you reply “yes I understand,” but  I will do nothing about it type of reactions. However, what foods you are eating can determine how your day is going.

Simply, for recovering addicts and alcoholics are feelings are on the line. That may sound dramatic, but it’s true. And for your information, food causes all kinds of chemical reactions in our bodies and therefore can and does dictate how we feel. Of course, we are all different, some of us can sleep after coffee and some of us shake like leaves.

What we want you to notice is what foods help you feel healthy, help you feel strong and then compare- are these foods good for me? And are you eating enough? Food is our fuel and what keeps us feeling alive. So sign up for that nutrition counseling and make eating healthy food a part of your recovery.

Be Aware of the Company You Keep

Here, for people in early recovery, they sometimes forget how important it is to keep their circle of support healthy.This circle includes friends, co-workers, and family. Being in recovery from addiction or alcoholism means you have to take charge of your recovery and nurture it. Do not waste time with people who make you feel uncomfortable, mad or sad. Move on and prosper. It is your duty to choose the best company for yourself.

If that means you have to politely leave the room at your sober living house, or around certain people, then do it. Asking to work with people that you are comfortable with is totally allowed in any work environment. And as for family, take your time to heal yourself first and utilize guidance from a counselor or sponsor only.

The company we keep is about our self-esteem, our hopes, and our dreams. If there are more people in your life that make you feel upset versus making you feel really positive and in charge of your recovery, then it’s time to take action and become aware of who is on your recovery team, and who helps you and who hurts you.

Find That Cozy Place and Visit Often

This is all about meeting your needs. It is so very important for recovering addicts and alcoholics to spend lots of time nurturing themselves. On the road to recovery, we need a lot of warm and fuzzy feel goods to remind us that life is so much better clean and sober. And here the options are endless. Discover what you enjoy and make it a priority regularly. Take lots of naps when you can, watch your favorite movies and cry. Drive around with the music cranked. Call your best friend or family members who you enjoy the most. Go have that awesome sandwich at your favorite café. Find that cozy place in multiple locations and visit often.

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Girls, Do You Need Sober Living In Deerfield Beach?

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If the answer is No, then you are missing out on a premier luxury sober living house to call home and live comfortably by the beach while you get your life back together. Ladies, starting over once you’ve decided to stay clean and sober requires some hard work and dedication to your new life. But there is no reason your living environment shouldn’t be comfortable and really nice. Deerfield Beach is one of the strongest recovery communities in all of Palm Beach County, and not to mention it’s a beach town with so much to do! Here you will not just live in a great new house with supportive women who are all staying sober, but you will have luxury amenities at your reach!

Why Choose Our Sober Living?

First of all, if you are not serious about ending your addictions for good, then our women’s sober living houses aren’t going to work for you. However, if you have read this far then maybe you do want to get to know the real you, the best you, and the clean and sober you! Our Sober Living for women provides a safe atmosphere where everyone is on the same page. Our houses are elegant in all senses of the word. We require that all residents work, go to IOP, and stay positive about recovery. We run a home not just a program, and that is how it works. Our houses are managed by female leaders in recovery, and everyone is treated with a lot of love and respect. So if you are ready to stay on the path of discovering who you really are, meaning you are ready for your recovery to make your dreams come true, then we want you here!

We Go To Meetings and We Go to Church

For some girls in early recovery, going to meetings or church isn’t always first on their list. Especially, after a long day at work, IOP, and life. And we get that! And sometimes meetings and church might be boring, yet what we want you to realize is that meetings do matter because they help remind you how to change and church reminds you that you are loved. Routine lives are safe lives, and learning to make regular meetings with your peers and going to church to be with God (or your higher power) no matter how long your day was is crucial. We will require you attend a number of meetings a week, find a church that you love, and we will make all of this easy because we provide rides and tell you where all the good ones are.

Ladies, We Are The Support You Need, Where You Want It

Deerfield Sober Living for women is minutes from the gorgeous clear blue Atlantic ocean. Beach activities, cool restaurants and coffee shops are right next to us. And all of our houses are modern and luxurious. Every house has cable, Netflix, laundry, patios and some with in ground pools for you to relax by. We provide 24/7 support here, by a paid staff, and our location is central to everything you will need. 

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What is IOP?

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IOP stands for intensive outpatient program. The word ‘outpatient’ usually makes those with experience at other drug and alcohol rehab’s think that this is a day or night program and that it is easy to follow. Those two thoughts can’t be more correct! Our Intensive Outpatient Program is designed to allow clients to live independent lives while receiving professional substance abuse treatment.

When Does IOP Meet?

The IOP program sessions are available morning, afternoon and evening. IOP meets for three hours at a time for three days a week. The purpose of this program is to help get a person’s life back on track. IOP allows clients to work, go to school, keep appointments, make meetings and continue on with their daily commitments. The agenda for most clients in IOP is that they reside in a sober living house and attend IOP with their housemates. Women reside with women and men with men.

Why Does IOP Help Addicts In Early Recovery?

Persons in early recovery are going to go through stress. They are learning to cope clean and sober, which is not easy. They will be feeling up one day and down the next. They will also be getting new jobs and maybe even losing old jobs. That’s life. The support of this program is founded on giving attention to the stressors that life brings. Getting a flat tire, or forgetting to pay a bill, and even having arguments with friends are events addicts and alcoholics can often relapse over. Not as likely with the support of an IOP program.

IOP has a professional staff of counselors, psychiatrists, and therapists ready to listen and provide guidance and love. And one of the strongest supports that are not always obvious but definitely happens at IOP is from clients helping clients. Close, real, relationships occur naturally and create memorable, positive support networks, for years to come.

And there is plenty of learning that occurs at IOP- on a multitude of levels! Emotional, spiritual and cognitive. Learning about the self and how to care for the ‘new you’ in recovery is really what IOP is all about. The groups and workshops teach recovery skills, philosophy, and provide guidance about how to stay clean and sober. Learning at IOP is the free flowing of educated advice meant to save you.

And IOP IS FUN

Fun is a word most addicts and alcoholics have to learn to redefine. IOP isn’t just fun because of the ‘live’ recovery speakers who’ve made it out of addiction, who come to inspire and push you towards your dreams, or even the catered food (which is really good and provided at each 3-hour session) or the massage therapy sessions that are heavenly. IOP is fun because of the relationships that are formed. The counselors are there for you and so is the staff. And when you laugh with one another during group, or because in the van ride to IOP the driver played the best new song, or because you watched your friend get through a crisis and stay clean, it’s going to be the best kind of new fun you’ve had in your life, and in your recovery!

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Relationships, Love, and Relapse: Why They Are Connected

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The Emotions Are Big

Love is the single most sought after emotion we have. We all want it, and we all need it. So if its overall reputation is so popular why would feelings of love cause a relapse in addiction recovery? The answer is plain and simple; the emotions are BIG, really BIG. And for people in early recovery the need to feel something, anything other than our own feelings is even bigger. And with these great big feelings of love, we buy right in. For most of our lives, we have used drugs and alcohol to cope. Now that we are clean and sober, we are left all by ourselves to face what we were numbing in the first place. And this is really hard. That’s why so many turn to the opposite (or same) sex to take their mind off of themselves. Suddenly, you like everybody! And everybody likes you too! So here are the reasons why you should resist beginning a relationship in early recovery:

WHY #1: You Are Not Ready

If you are still not comfortable with your own feelings, then it is totally ridiculous to think you can handle someone else’s too. Love is the joining of emotions. Love is also wonderful when it is REAL. For people in early recovery, their idea of REAL is probably a little off. No offense, we all know addicts and alcoholics are incredibly intelligent and good hearted. But the fact remains that until you are comfortable in your own skin, you are not ready for someone else’s. No pun intended.

Why #2: Focus on Yourself

Think about it, aren’t YOU getting clean and sober so you can change YOUR life? Of course you are! So why bring in someone else to focus on? This is your time to love yourself for once, to be a star, and to become the person you were meant to be. We may all be in this together, but it is only YOU that can beat addiction, so focus on yourself and let the love thing happen later. You will thank us if you do.

Why #3: In Addiction Recovery, We LOVE to Obsess

You may not have noticed, but should, how we as recovering addicts tend to think of things as black and white, and all or nothing. We also tend to create scenarios in our head that are not real, and especially about the opposite sex. Our imaginations fuel our feelings, and this can become dangerous, and cause you to feel really uncomfortable. And this is called OBSESSION.  We obsess over the desire to use AND what we make think is true love. Obsession happens in early recovery and can tie itself to LOVE and to substances. And for us in recovery, love is often a great pretender, and nothing is worth losing your recovery, even (what you think is) love.

So if you are not yet fully committed to your recovery you may want to ask yourself, am I committed to another person? Because for persons in new recovery from alcohol and drug addiction, it is our romantic relationships that will hold us back, and take us down. The facts don’t lie and if you ask anyone with some good clean time what has caused them to relapse, or almost relapse, quicker than anything else, the answer is always the same – it was because of a romantic relationship. For the newbie, romantic relationships take more away from you than they give- if you let it.

 

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